Post Mortem.
Reflecting back on creating the wedding of my dreams that all my fussy friends said was perfect, Vogue covered and two months later, I still can't stop obsessing about the fucking wrong table cloths.
One of my favorite things to do is listen to “GK’s Must Haves” playlist on Spotify. It is a compilation of 1 hour and 58 minutes of music that has defined my life; songs that I had always dreamed of dancing to at my wedding with my family and friends, a playlist that I spent months curating and all of which, two songs played at my actual wedding.
Of course, I know that things go wrong at your wedding, or any event you plan. I just didn’t think that things would go wrong at my wedding. I’ll be honest, these are things that even my bridal party that I told too many things to didn’t know were wrong, but they are the things that keep this perfectionist, who was also the planner, up at night. And, they are the things I am happy to share with future brides, those past who would love to commiserate, and most of all, those who are still dreaming of their perfect day.
God Grant You the Serenity to Accept the Things You Cannot Change
Because S/HE did not do that for me. As I walked up the stairs to the Walled Garden at Belcombe Court I saw a male guest who either I had not met before or my cousin who barely said hello to me, probably my cousin, walking around with a Via Carota signature craft cocktail that was meant only to be served on Saturday at reception. This same male guest went and sat at the long blue and white striped table I had art directed from hair and makeup, in front of the wrong candles. It was too late to remove the drink from his hands or the candles from the table and at 3:07pm on our Friday welcome bbq, it was too late to have the perfect wedding. Even if I had, had an external planner from the start, something like this would’ve happened, without a doubt, but the fact that I did plan my own wedding and didn’t use the full production team for anything past day of support, meant I was going to know when something like this happened. Each. And. Every. Time.
